The Real Answer to Loneliness

The law – being acceptable to God by what you do – works from the outside in. It doesn’t change who you are, unlike grace, which works from the inside out.

Sometimes situations in life show us ugliness in our being. Jesus said He came as a doctor to the sick. When we become aware of sinful parts of our nature, it is an opportunity for the Doctor to bring us spiritual healing and growth.

The answer to lonliness is to be alone with Jesus. In John, we see two people who were alone with Him and how He reached them.

John 3:1-2 NLT

There was a man named Nicodemus, a Jewish religious leader who was a Pharisee. After dark one evening, he came to speak with Jesus. “Rabbi,” he said, “we all know that God has sent you to teach us. Your miraculous signs are evidence that God is with you.”

John 4:3-4, 6 NLT

So he left Judea and returned to Galilee. He had to go through Samaria on the way. Jacob’s well was there; and Jesus, tired from the long walk, sat wearily beside the well about noontime.

Differences – Nicodemus was a well respected man who came in the night. The Samaritan woman was despised and came in the middle of the day. Jesus’ approach to each person was different according to the individual and the situation. Jesus wants us to follow His lead in reaching out to people.

John 3:3-4 NLT

Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.” “What do you mean?” exclaimed Nicodemus. “How can an old man go back into his mother’s womb and be born again?”

Nicodemus was educated, and Jesus knew that, so His answer to him was to humble him and press the boundaries of his understanding.

John 4:7-10 NLT

Soon a Samaritan woman came to draw water, and Jesus said to her, “Please give me a drink.”  He was alone at the time because his disciples had gone into the village to buy some food. The woman was surprised, for Jews refuse to have anything to do with Samaritans. She said to Jesus, “You are a Jew, and I am a Samaritan woman. Why are you asking me for a drink?” Jesus replied, “If you only knew the gift God has for you and who you are speaking to, you would ask me, and I would give you living water.”

Jesus responded to her presence in His life with an entirely different response because she was already humbled by culture and life.

Joshua 6

Imagine the people marching around the city. They were given very little information, but they were told to march around the city, and they obeyed. And then – they saw nothing happen. They did this 5 more days. But that wasn’t all – on the 7th day, they went around seven times.

How many days would you have to march around an entire city, seeing nothing happen, before getting frustrated?

Obedience is our responsibility – the outcome is God’s responsibility. Just because your progress isn’t visible doesn’t mean God has stopped working.

We want to see Him win a battle for us, but He wants to win a battle inside us. Do you trust Him to work on your life according to His timing?

“The Pit” by Anonymous

A man fell into a pit and could not get himself out.

A subjective person came along and said, “I feel for you down there.”

An objective person came along and said, “It’s logical that someone would come along and fall down into the pit.”

A Christian scientist came along and said, “You only think you are down in a pit.”

A Pharisee came along and said, “Only bad people fall down into a pit.”

A newspaper reporter wanted an exclusive story on the pit.

A fundamentalist said, “You deserve your pit.”

Confucious said, “If you would have listened to me, you would not have fallen into the pit.”

A Buddhist said, “Your pit is just a state of mind.”

A realist said, “That’s a pit.”

A scientist calculated the pressure per pound per square inch to get him out of the pit.

A geologist taught him how to appreciate the rock strata while he was in the pit.

A tax man asked him if he was paying his taxes on the pit.

A city inspector asked him if he had a permit to dig the pit.

An evasive man came along an avoided the subject of the pit all together.

A self-pitying person came along and said, “You have not seen anything until you have seen my pit!”

A charismatic came along and said, “You are not in the pit.”

An optimist came along and said, “Things could be worse.”

A pessimist came along and said, “Things will get worse.”

Jesus, seeing the man, knelt down, reached out His hand, and pulled the man out of the pit.